Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 12:24     Subject: Re:Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
I didn’t read all the responses, but in my medium-sized home city all of the nicer wedding venues have essentially the same aesthetic and lend themselves to further customization and decoration within that aesthetic. Also, wedding planning is basically just copying other people anyway until you reach the most expensive ones. It’s a long way of saying sister may not have had that many choices and I don’t think there is a need to take it personally or read into it.

Perhaps plan a nice anniversary getaway as a distraction.
Anonymous
Post 02/20/2021 08:49     Subject: Re:Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Sister sent me a text this morning about the venue and sent me pictures telling me how beautiful it is. I said wow it looks beautiful! Funny, I wanted to get married there too.

She said oh well now you can attend a venue there!

I didn't even know what to say. Like is that going to make me feel better?



so the only way to feel better is to just stop and drop the rope.

You don't need to be jealous. You don't need to worry about her one upping you because there is no such thing.

So you reply "OMG! so beautiful! I can't wait to attend. I looked at this venue for our wedding but it didn't work out. I am so happy for you!" And that's what happened. The venue didn't work out because of the budget but you just tell her it didn't work out because the place you got married was the best fit for your wedding - that is if she ever asks.

If she embraces baking - "Yeah! Now we can compare baking notes! Look at my latest bake"
if she embraces architecture -" There is a great exhibit coming up - let's go check it out together!"


This. OP, you were *so* incredibly rude to respond to your sister’s text and make it about you. The only appropriate response to her text would be something along the lines of, “Wow, it looks so gorgeous! I can’t wait to be there and see you walk down that aisle!”

Your weird comparison with your sister is going to destroy your relationship with her if you can’t get this jealousy under control. Please discuss with your therapist and the right question for him/ her is not to find a way to get your sister to not copy you. The real question is how you can stop comparing yourself and how you can find a way to be happy for her when good things happen to her.
Anonymous
Post 02/19/2021 20:54     Subject: Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
Are you 15?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2021 23:20     Subject: Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
With everything going on, you choose this to be angry about? Get a grip.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2021 23:18     Subject: Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
Anonymous wrote:OP, was this you (the details seem familiar /similar in both)


https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/911338.page

You really need to get some counselling so you can get some space in your head. Your fixation with your sister copying you is not healthy, even if she IS.


Woe...has to be thr same person.

OP...you didn't get the tech job because you are a fruitcake.
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2021 23:10     Subject: Re:Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
Anonymous wrote:OP here. Also her wedding decor pinterest board is a copycat of mine.

How am I not supposed to be annoyed?


You are obscenely immature.

Let me guess.....she's the pretty skinny one?
Anonymous
Post 02/18/2021 10:20     Subject: Sister books the same wedding venue I wanted to get married at
OP, was this you (the details seem familiar /similar in both)


https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/911338.page

You really need to get some counselling so you can get some space in your head. Your fixation with your sister copying you is not healthy, even if she IS.