Anonymous
09/25/2018 14:20
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!
Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.
Me three. AA woman and I agree with both of the above. It's a trust/intimacy thing, i.e., I know what he does/does not like, etc., so I make his plate at large gatherings (he makes his own at home, of course). On the flip side of the coin, my DH would not like for another man (other than a bartender or waiter) to make or bring me a drink.
I'm white but I agree with this. I don't regularly make my (AA) husband's plate -- maybe just at Thanksgiving or big family events -- but if another woman did it would raise my hackles. Not on my watch.
AA Woman..I totally agree with all of the above. I serve my DH sometimes, as he does with me . There is NO reason-NONE- for another woman to EVER serve my DH, unless something is up.
Anonymous
09/25/2018 13:22
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!
Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.
Me three. AA woman and I agree with both of the above. It's a trust/intimacy thing, i.e., I know what he does/does not like, etc., so I make his plate at large gatherings (he makes his own at home, of course). On the flip side of the coin, my DH would not like for another man (other than a bartender or waiter) to make or bring me a drink.
I'm white but I agree with this. I don't regularly make my (AA) husband's plate -- maybe just at Thanksgiving or big family events -- but if another woman did it would raise my hackles. Not on my watch.
Anonymous
09/25/2018 13:19
Subject: Re:S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Black millennial. I feed everyone. I love cooking.
Anonymous
09/25/2018 13:00
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!
Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.
Me three. AA woman and I agree with both of the above. It's a trust/intimacy thing, i.e., I know what he does/does not like, etc., so I make his plate at large gatherings (he makes his own at home, of course). On the flip side of the coin, my DH would not like for another man (other than a bartender or waiter) to make or bring me a drink.
Anonymous
09/25/2018 12:54
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!
Right. I mean how do people not know/understand this.
Anonymous
09/25/2018 12:49
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
AA woman. The only man I bring food to is DH. No woman should be bringing my DH food either!
Anonymous
09/25/2018 12:30
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?
It’s both. Basically it’s catering to your man. You’re saying he’s taken care of .
Really? Fascinating,
Anonymous
09/25/2018 08:19
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?
It’s both. Basically it’s catering to your man. You’re saying he’s taken care of .
White woman here. I never do this for my DH (he hates it). But it is definitely this!^
Anonymous
09/25/2018 07:56
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Anonymous wrote:What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?
It’s both. Basically it’s catering to your man. You’re saying he’s taken care of .
Anonymous
09/25/2018 07:55
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
Original thread:
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/754611.page
I don’t think this is a case of picking up orders for the office , grabbing a bag of chips because you going to the vending machine too , or sharing a rare treat. Seems more intentional. I can’t imagine warming up a coworker’s food. That’s stuff I do at home for my kids or DH
http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/754611.page
I don’t think this is a case of picking up orders for the office , grabbing a bag of chips because you going to the vending machine too , or sharing a rare treat. Seems more intentional. I can’t imagine warming up a coworker’s food. That’s stuff I do at home for my kids or DH
Anonymous
09/25/2018 07:41
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
What does making a plate mean? Does it mean you're cooking a full meal for someone or just assembling something already cooked/catered/potlucked onto a plate?
Anonymous
09/25/2018 07:40
Subject: S/o bringing a man food and culture?
This tread reminds me of when I was talking to my AA friend when she was separating from her husband and she said, "not only did I make him dinner every night. I PLATED it and served it to him!" That was a very important distinction to her. I'm white and while I usually make dinner for my family I almost never plate DH's food and serve it to him.