Is there something psychologically wrong with you? Like it is a little scary that you are so invested in your troll threads. Aren't you a nanny? SCARY

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am madly in love with my BF. He treats me well, just like a woman should be treated. Yes guys, he even opens up doors for me and all that. He is a great listener and very supportive of my needs, etc.

The problem is that EVERYONE I know thinks he is a loser

he has 2 felonies on his record plus his father has a restraining order on him which prevents him from being even considered for work. He had his parental rights terminated a few yrs back due to his excessive jail time and can no longer see his three kids. He has been out for about 2.5 yrs and is slowly getting his life back together.
He really wants to get a job so he can support himself and hopefully get his parental rights reinstated again.

I know he has a tough road ahead, but I really want to help him reclaim his life again.
Doesn't everyone deserve a second chance?.

Okay, let's review! You think everyone deserves a second chance. Okay, that's fair. Let's see what happened with your boyfriend. He was found GUILTY of two felonies. Someone took out a restraining order on him. Someone who knew him better than you, for a longer period of time than you. Honey, he GOT a second chance. Nobody goes from zero to two felonies without something in between. There WAS a second chance, and he blew that.

Let me ask you this: you want to help him reclaim his life. How do you plan to do that? He seems to need a job and a place to live. Are you going to let him move in with you, and open your own business and then hire him full-time? Otherwise, how do you propose that you'll get him a job?

Now you might want to tell me "Hey, everyone makes mistakes; nobody's perfect!" to which I would say you are right. But none of my mistakes result in someone taking out a restraining order against me. Or me being convicted of two felonies. Or my parental rights being taken away. My mistakes are that I forget to buy toilet paper and have to go back to the store twice in one day. Or that I accidentally step on my dog's paw when she's underfoot. He did not have a little whoopsie here. He made clear and concise decisions to break the law in a very serious way. You understand a felony is not shoplifting a pack of gum when you're 12, right? It's not stealing your dad's car and then getting in a car accident that's your fault when you're 16. A felony is a VERY big deal, and he has two of them.

Thank you for the BESTEST advice ever. You are most definitely the voice of reason and you made some good solid points on here.

I esp. agree that having 2 felonies is not quite the same as making a little "mistake." I guess I just always focus on the good in people. I also like to "fix" people as well. This has always been my downfall in life.

Anyway, I decided last night to stop seeing this guy. I mean, he is a repeat offender and how do I know he has really changed? He has started asking me for rides more, asks me to give him food and also asks to borrow money from me. At first, I was happy to help out, but now things are just getting too old. Whatever we do together, I usually am the one footing the bill. Gas, movie tickets, etc. He has no shame asking me for favors which most guys would die if they had to ask.
Sure, he may get his shit together or he may not. No one but God knows.
In the meantime, I am going to err on the side of caution and let him go.....The odds are too stacked against us right now. I am in a good place in my life, and do not want to be around his negative energy.
I truly was starting to fall in love w/this guy, but if I get out now, it hurts WAY less than if I stay w/him another day, wk, yr, etc.

Sometimes our friends/family can see things ourselves cannot see. We are usually blinded by love and this clouds our good judgment.

I told people today that I would cease communicating w/this fellow, and boy...is everyone happy. It's like they are almost (!) celebrating for me.

Thank you guys for the great advice and I appreciate those who took the time to respond to my dilemma.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: he sounds just fabulous! What woman wouldn't want a relationship with this Prince Charming? In fact, he seems like the kind of man a young girl would only dream about and...you've truly found your dream man!

+1. Sounds like OP has met her soul mate!

+1!!! He sounds like a true delight!! It's actually HARD to find someone with this number of red flags, what a lucky break!

Anonymous wrote:I thought jeff had called you out as a troll before ...

+1. Total troll. Total bold troll.

Anonymous wrote:OP: he sounds just fabulous! What woman wouldn't want a relationship with this Prince Charming? In fact, he seems like the kind of man a young girl would only dream about and...you've truly found your dream man!

+1. Sounds like OP has met her soul mate!

OP: he sounds just fabulous! What woman wouldn't want a relationship with this Prince Charming? In fact, he seems like the kind of man a young girl would only dream about and...you've truly found your dream man!

Pp,you are an idiot. That is all

there is more to love than just how he treats you. i agree that, from what you wrote, he seems to be a very loving and caring person who is struggling to get his life back on the right path. but you owe it to yourself and to your potentially bright future to really sit down and consider the facts. i understand that people make mistakes, but a court ruled that he was unfit to see his three children. this is huge. his own father has a restraining order against him. this is also a huge deal. you need to look at the big picture.

I kind of feel bad for this troll

Yes, this is the same troll whom Jeff has ALREADY called out for posting multiple fake posts - sometimes she's married, sometimes she is getting divorced, other times she is with her felon BF. She tried to claim that 5 women live together in a house and all use the same computer and that's why all of these posts come from the same IP address.

Right...

Isnt there a troll on this board who just keeps going with the same fake posts?

Please read the advice given here:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/306107.page

Why'd does his own father have a restraining order against him?