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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.

PP, this is hard to do when the relationship is toxic. There are feelings and resentment involved and not worth to move to a FWB level.

+1, this will result in her re-investing in the relationship and feeling betrayed when OP moves on to new GF. And she won't be entirely wrong, even though it will also be do to her own difficulties with boundaries.

Clean break is best. Especially with kids involved.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.

PP, this is hard to do when the relationship is toxic. There are feelings and resentment involved and not worth to move to a FWB level.

Anonymous wrote:This one is actually quite easy to resolve…..

You ➕ your girlfriend are very obviously not a suitable match.

At all.
You both need to call it off today.

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't sound in the best interest of your kids.

It's very kind of you to consider her homomonal state, and it may be part of it, so if you love her you might consider al ultimatum: I need you to stay out of my parenting if this is going to work. Period. No exceptions.

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Yes, I am thinking about the same thing but wanted others perspective in case I am missing something. she is not living with me. Was during last year but then living separetly due to for her work. She has a few medical issues such as type 2, PCOS, Hashimoto and ADHD. She is on all these meds except ADHD and an anti-depressant. I am also trying to see if this is due to medical reasons of her hormones at this age because she was very sweet and kind at the starting and we are together for about 3 years.

Anonymous wrote:GF start talking about "we are done" or break-up when we argue about something. Most of the issues come when I put my boundaries if she is extremely critical and micromanages me or how I am doing things. I am 44 and she is 43 and her kids are in college and mine are 14 and 12. She interferes in my parenting and get upset when I tell her to not worry about certain things that kids mom and I are deciding on. She is also a helicopter parent to her 25 and 21 year old daughters and track their location and try to go and help them for every little thing, emotionally or not. We took therapy for a while and things were better but haven't done it for a couple of months because our therapist was out sick. She criticizes but can't take the criticism if I tell her to not do it or she is hurting my feelings.

Anonymous wrote:GF start talking about "we are done" or break-up when we argue about something. Most of the issues come when I put my boundaries if she is extremely critical and micromanages me or how I am doing things. I am 44 and she is 43 and her kids are in college and mine are 14 and 12. She interferes in my parenting and get upset when I tell her to not worry about certain things that kids mom and I are deciding on. She is also a helicopter parent to her 25 and 21 year old daughters and track their location and try to go and help them for every little thing, emotionally or not. We took therapy for a while and things were better but haven't done it for a couple of months because our therapist was out sick. She criticizes but can't take the criticism if I tell her to not do it or she is hurting my feelings.

Anonymous wrote:Is this she?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1297063.page

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with everyone else but add demote to FWB while lining up a new GF.

PP, this is hard to do when the relationship is toxic. There are feelings and resentment involved and not worth to move to a FWB level.