Mood swings or rage
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Anonymous
| I am 43 and over weight at 5'3". I tend to lose temper and start verbally attacking my bf and get defensive when we are discussing something. Not sure what is going on but a small discussion suddenly turns aggressive and I tend to leave the situation, house or shut-down. Then, I feel bad about it and see how sweet he is. Got tests done with my endocrinologist and OBGYN and they don't think I am in peri-menopause. Is this normal for this age? I also have Hashimoto, type 2 and ADHD and had them for a while. |
Anonymous
| So is this reaction new? How is your relationship? Does this occur around one topic or area of life? Could be hormone related, but you have a lot to wade thru. What meds are you in for thyroid and adhd? |
Anonymous
| Op here. Yes, I am bit aggressive in last 1 year or so and some of the issues we could easily handle when I think about them later. Not sure if my hormones are messed up. OBGYN told me that I don't need HRT but I forgot to mention that I also have PCOS for about 15+ years. Not much interest in sex and I get snappy easily. |
Anonymous
| Op again. Wanted to add more. The aggressiveness could happen at any topic. Overall, relationship with him is good but he also gets fed up of my mood swings. |
Anonymous
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IME, the emotional roller coaster, especially with rage or increasing anxiety and/or anxiety that feels like rage, is the first stage. AND the first treatment is usually an anti-anxiety med. An SNRI - v SSRI - is also indicated to help with headaches and night sweats.
The SNRI probably saved my marriage and definitely saved my sanity. The HRT came in much later (7 years?) when I developed joint pain, hot flashes. |
Anonymous
what age did it start for you, pp? |
Anonymous
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You need to check your TSH. If it's below 1, your irritability could be due to hyperthyroidism. Otherwise, it's true that ADHD and hormonal fluctuations due to PCOS can lead to irritability.
You might need to do extended bloodwork, to see if anything can be treated. Otherwise, you can consult a psychiatrist to discuss a mood stabilizer or meds for anxiety. This would be most helpful alongside therapy to train yourself to avoid triggers and habits of thoughts that lead to anger. People with ADHD often don't get good quality sleep, so good sleep hygiene, good nutrition, stress-relief such as exercise, yoga or walks in the fresh air, all these little lifestyle things add up and can make a difference. |
Anonymous
| PP, Op said that she has Hashimoto which means lower TSH or hypo thyroidism. ADHD and other anxiety could cause a lot of issues in handling rage. |
Anonymous
| I started rage at 46. Menopause wasn't until 56. |
Anonymous
I know, I had that, and I was hyPER-thyroid at first, then hyPO. Fluctuations can happen. |
Anonymous
Oh boy! How often you should be checking that and is that the main reason behind rage? |
Anonymous
| Being a nasty person is not a medical Dx. |
Anonymous
| Did your partner post here today about you? |
Anonymous
It's not. But medical reasons can contribute to OPs instability. It's not an excuse and OP certainly doesn't get a pass for treating people poorly. But it's worth trying to figure out if there is a medical reason behind it that OP can try to fix or if OP needs to work on anger management. |
Anonymous
PP, why are you calling OP nasty? She wants to find out more about her behavior's change and that is good. If it is medical then she can look into solutions. |