Anonymous wrote:Oh my ... is this for real? This has got to be one of the absolute most shocking threads I've ever read on DCUM just because of the continued responses and the fact that the OP (who I choose to believe must be a troll) keeps just feeding the negative posters so that the whole thread has turned into a back and forth of insults rather than a useful discussion.

This makes me sad because I've gotten a lot of great advice from DCUM, really, and this kind of thing just feeds that perception of DCUM as a bunch of snarky rich women being mean and jealous of each other, which is quite the opposite of what I've found when I've asked for real advice, taken even the advice that might have not been exactly what I would have LIKED to hear, and ignored the haters. I'm sorry that OP (or a troll?) has taken the low-road on this one. Hoping others don't read this and lump all DC women together with the ones represented on this thread. How disappointing.

Anonymous wrote:Rinky Dink University here-

WOW!! What a treat, came back to DCUM and three whole pages of craziness!! To think I was out having a life, while OP was coming unglued on the internet.

Dear OP- It must be so lonely spending time on the internet because you don't have any true friends. Not surprising, when your own family can't stand you. Hopefully your husband at least gets joy out of life, banging his secretary.

PS...
Even if I had a sofa from Costco or ate Giant dinners, I would be a happier person than you, OP.

Anonymous wrote:NP here -just read through the pages of drama. I have to say I can't believe OP is still posting. Some people don't know when to quit. OP, you are a fool, at best. I don't care where you earned your degree.

Anonymous wrote:Nutty OP's original post:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/206552.page

Anonymous wrote:My sister is four years younger than me. She didn't just become jealous because I'm expecting now. In fact, we haven't confirmed our pg to her or her husband yet. I'm 24 weeks and really showing. Last time I saw her she kept staring at my belly and then went to our mother to try to ascertain the truth. She didn't ask me because we are not speaking. We stopped speaking years ago when I learned the extent of her jealousy and competitiveness (not just with me but also with other women). I had asked my mother not to say anything so she denied she knew I was pg.

Anyhow this jealousy has been going on for a very long time. She began to open up to me to explain her feelings many years ago. She said she resented that she felt our father preferred me because I was the more outgoing child. She seemed to establish life milestones based on when I or other women achieved certain things. If I got married by a certain age, she was hell bent on trying to meet or beat my age. When that didn't happen she became very bitter toward me. She was pleased when she finally got engaged but broke off her engagement the day before my wedding. The day of my wedding she abandoned me and didn't help me get ready at all. She told me she thought my gown looked ugly.

When her colleagues were all getting pg and having babies, she called me one day when we were on better terms and confessed how envious she was of them but she couldn't help her feelings.

Then when I was seven months pregnant, she got married. She quickly got pregnant three months later. When my child was two and exhibiting some quirky behavior she was certain it was autism and kept urging us to have him evaluated. He wasn't delayed in his speech but slow to socialize with people outside of the family. We had him tested by several people and learned he did not have ASD, just social anxiety. Then when she had a child he was severely delayed in speech (didn't speak until he was 2 1/2 years old) and exhibited perseverative behavior. She refused to have him evaluated though. Once when we got into an argument about our children she said to me, "Everybody knows my child doesn't need your child, it's your child that needs my child," I suppose a reference to the fact that my DC was slower to socialize and needed her DC to help bring him out of his shell.After the birth of our first children, she once confessed to me that she and her DH regularly glance at my belly to see if I'm pg with my second yet. They were always trying for their second.

She and I both had graduate school loans to pay off. When we got married, DH paid off mine. Her DH, a surgeon, refused to pay off hers though. I think she resented that because she then accused me of marrying DH for his money.

There have been so many jabs and insults I've taken over the years. Now I'm pg and don't want her to know. Since we're not on speaking terms she can't say anything to hurt me but I just don't want to deal with her stares and glares or the hurtful knowledge that my own sister can be that envious. How can I cope since I have to see her at birthday parties, holidays, etc...???

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Anonymous wrote:Rinky Dink degree... How clever OP!! Actually English isn't my first language, I speak five languages actually. Maybe if you weren't so busy obsessing about your sister and scheming, you'd have time for other hobbies like language studies. Oh and I have a masters degree, which wasn't paid off by a man. Your sister is paying off her own loans and I applaud her for that. You seem very entitled, so you wouldn't understand the feeling of accomplishment to pay your own way in life. I think you're jealous of HER. Competitive, much??

Keep posting, please!!!

Of all the posters, you amuse me the most because your poor writing and lack of intelligent replies makes you the easiest to pick on. And thank you, it must have been clever because it was enough to get you irritated enough to write me back, didn't it? Perhaps if English were your first language and you understood American culture well too you would understand that a "masters" degree is commonplace here in the DC metro area. I have a "masters" degree that I paid for too. But DH paid for the more costly degree I got after that. By the way, did Rinky Dink University fail to teach you when to capitalize too?

So let me also understand your other point -- I am jealous of my sister because I yearn to pay off my own loans rather than let my DH if he wants to? So that's why my sister is digging her fingernails into her skin over it? I didn't earn DH's gift to pay off my loan. I didn't even ask for it. He did it on his own. Maybe you're the one who is jealous because you're wondering why despite speaking five languages and having a "masters" degree from Rinky Dink University you still have bills you're struggling to pay for. What kind of a job can you possibly have given the way you write? Sorry PP, I'm actually a decent person who hates to communicate this way to others. But if you think you can take the frustration of your own miserable life out on anonymous DCUM posters seeking support without any consequence, you are mistaken. Let's see how you like a taste of your own snarky medicine. You won't win any war of words with me because it's easy to figure out from your poor writing and unintelligent rebuttals that you lack intelligence.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many people in the beginning suggested that your approach to dealing with your sister was immature. This was long before you felt a need to list your amazing qualities along with endless accounts of your troubled sister relationship.[i] After that you just proved our initial suspicions correct, and you continue to do so.

It's important to accept criticism where criticism is just and deserving. My ownership in this whole issue is that I probably should never have told my mother about my pregnancy so that it would never put her in an uncomfortable position of having to lie or withhold information. I don't like to be responsible for anyone's lying. So, no, I don't have any issue with accepting criticism where the judgment is truly fair.

glad to see you are finally owning up to your role a little bit. Now, can you acknowledge that you might have a part to play in your poor relationship with your sister? I am not saying she is innocent..but I highly doubt that she is the only cause of misery in your family dynamics. You can only change yourself..