Also, enough is not said about the risks of having a child - risks that are slightly elevated when having a child through IVF. Everyone imagines their kid will turn out to be cute and smart and sweet - but what if your child is not? Then you are stuck in a loveless marriage with a child with special needs - and I can tell you that is not a good place to be.

Do not do it!!!

Work on your marriage. I was in a similar position. I ended up doing it alone.

It only gets worse with kids. Put eggs into freeze. All the things you hate about your husband you will see in your kids.

Anonymous wrote:How old are you?

Just turned 37

How old are you?

He sounds horrible and you sound miserable. Do not bring a tiny life into this chaos. The baby deserves better.

You're baby deserve happiness, love and stability.

Absolutely do not bring a baby into this environment.

Having a baby is so stressful. Do not do this with a man you dislike. This is a terrible idea. Better to be a SMBC than tied to a man you describe as immature.

Op, listen to your heart. You know what to do. Do not bring a baby into this.

Do not have a baby. Get a divorce.

Postpone this transfer and work on your marriage or dissolve it.

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1204801.page

This

Are you the poster who complained about smug parents on Mother’s Day and a DH who you feel doesn’t allow you to express sadness?

I am having panic attacks about my upcoming embryo transfer. I have waited so long to be a mother and have put up with so much from my husband who...is really immature among other things. We fight all the time and spend a lot of weekends stone walling each other. He has emotional regulation issues and was an alcoholic in the past although no longer. He does not deal with change well and I am anxious about adding a baby to the dynamic.

I want a baby desperately but I want the whole package. I want a wonderful warm home, financial stability, a mature, kind, emotionally stable husband and father who will be my rock and a good role model for our child.

I just don't feel like i can have it all as I am in my late thirties. I just want to cry with this stress!