Anonymous
02/16/2023 06:41
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Anonymous wrote:Doesn’t matter if it’s Valentine’s Day: You say X is important to me. He doesn’t care or do X because it’s not important to you. You forgive him because you’re such a nice person and cool girl and it’s really silly to find X important really.
Now think of all the other requirements/boundaries you have that he no longer has to respect your feelings on going forward. You don’t mean what you say, he doesn’t have to do anything except exist for you to be sweet, doting, and gift giving. This is not a good foundation for how a man treats you long term. Imagine being married to a guy like that! NEXT.
If he wants to correct his behavior after you put him on ice fine, but you gotta be prepared to walk away, and not be afraid of not being “the cool girl”.
doesn’t do X because it’s not important to him*
Anonymous
02/16/2023 06:40
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Anonymous wrote:A sweater for Valentine’s Day? Really?
Hahaha!!! So funny!!
Anonymous
02/16/2023 06:40
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Doesn’t matter if it’s Valentine’s Day: You say X is important to me. He doesn’t care or do X because it’s not important to you. You forgive him because you’re such a nice person and cool girl and it’s really silly to find X important really.
Now think of all the other requirements/boundaries you have that he no longer has to respect your feelings on going forward. You don’t mean what you say, he doesn’t have to do anything except exist for you to be sweet, doting, and gift giving. This is not a good foundation for how a man treats you long term. Imagine being married to a guy like that! NEXT.
If he wants to correct his behavior after you put him on ice fine, but you gotta be prepared to walk away, and not be afraid of not being “the cool girl”.
Now think of all the other requirements/boundaries you have that he no longer has to respect your feelings on going forward. You don’t mean what you say, he doesn’t have to do anything except exist for you to be sweet, doting, and gift giving. This is not a good foundation for how a man treats you long term. Imagine being married to a guy like that! NEXT.
If he wants to correct his behavior after you put him on ice fine, but you gotta be prepared to walk away, and not be afraid of not being “the cool girl”.
Anonymous
02/16/2023 06:28
Subject: Re:Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
When you gave him the gift, did he say anything to acknowledge that he had shown up to Valentine’s Day completely empty handed, no flowers or anything?
Anonymous
02/16/2023 05:58
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
A sweater for Valentine’s Day? Really?
Anonymous
02/16/2023 04:52
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
The guy I dated before I met DH did this. We talked about Valentine's Day, I got him a gift, he didn't get me one. It wasn't that that made me dump him, but about 5 other red flags. It was just part of the package. I'm so glad I did. Met dh 8 months later and it's been 20 years!
Anonymous
02/16/2023 04:43
Subject: Re:Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Gift isn’t that important but I’d expect some romantic gesture like a meal (out or in), candles/flowers, or a sweet note. Did he do any of those things, OP?
Anonymous
02/16/2023 01:32
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Anonymous wrote:Why not just update your thread where you were concerned he wouldn't get you anything? You're the same poster, right?
Never mind (7mo vs 4 mo) anyway can you and that OP just complain to each other?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1112495.page
Anonymous
02/16/2023 01:29
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Why not just update your thread where you were concerned he wouldn't get you anything? You're the same poster, right?
Anonymous
02/16/2023 00:27
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
This is so basic. It doesn’t get better. You’ve only. een dating for 7 months. Thank you, next.
Anonymous
02/16/2023 00:21
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Anonymous wrote:Hmmmmm... And you agreed? Dump him. He clearly doesn't do what he says he'll do.
Indeed. If a man doesn't meet 100% of your requirements for a perfect man, move on.
Anonymous
02/16/2023 00:19
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Hmmmmm... And you agreed? Dump him. He clearly doesn't do what he says he'll do.
Anonymous
02/15/2023 23:37
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
Don't be surprised if you don't get anything for your birthday, anniversary, or Christmas.
It is what it is.
It is what it is.
Anonymous
02/15/2023 23:24
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
He ignored your discussion and feelings about it so worthy of concern.
Anonymous
02/15/2023 23:18
Subject: Boyfriend didn't get me a v day gift
My boyfriend of 7 months didn't get me a Valentine's gift. I gave him a nice sweater and he gave me nada. We spoke about this ahead of time. I told him celebrating was important to me, we agreed to exchange gifts and nothing. We are happy outside of this. Long term this would bother me. Is this a stupid reason to break up?