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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok, so what if SIL gets married a 3rd time, a 4th time?  Is it still out of bounds to complain if she throws subsequent big weddings???  There is an element of tactfulness here that OP rightly points out. [/quote]

Of course she can complain--to her friends, or DH, or anonymously here. But she cannot to complain to the SIL, because SIL's life choices ***are none of OP's business.*** Complain away, OP! But you only have the RIGHT to say something about one thing: whether or not you will be a bridesmaid. So say yes or no, but move on. You are not some authority on humility and self-awareness, CLEARLY.[/quote]

Frankly, you sound way more thought policey than those who just don't like being "voluntold" by close family to be in a tacky second wedding.

And, yeah, your guests thought your wedding was tacky.  You must know it, which is why you won't stop posting.[/quote]

I'm a new poster. I have only had one wedding, and have been happily married for five years. So I don't know who your beef is with, but it's not with me.

And here's what: there is no such thing as "voluntold." You can TRY to volunteer me for something, or tell me to do something. But I am a grown-ass woman, and I have no problem telling people no, or managing their expectations. Yes, Aunt Debbie might be upset if I don't do something the way she wants me to. She will live. So if someone asks me to be a bridesmaid, and I don't want to for whatever reason? I just politely say no.

See how that works?[/quote]

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