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[quote=Anonymous]OP, if you had asked if anyone else found it frustrating to try to help people who didn't follow through on your advice, you'd probably get some takers. There would still be the question of whether they were actually seeking out your advice, but whatever. It's frustrating and discouraging to watch people make choices we believe are not in their best interests. We might be wrong about whether it really is the best choice [i]for them[/i], and they get to make that decision, but yes, it's frustrating.

What you did instead was frame it in terms of being "judgy," of characterizing others as "low status" and your family as higher status, and of your and your husband's "lifestyle and status" as being "on display" as a good example. That isn't about being frustrated that things will not go as well as they can for some children -- who, but they way, you've characterized multiple times as being "dumb." That's about being mad that other people aren't agreeing with your self-assessment and acknowledging you as superior.

Which is why you're getting the side-eye and the mockery here. You are stamping your feet because you need something out of this exchange that you aren't getting, and you are using other people as rhetorical objects to get it. And that, frankly, is pretty gross and "disgusting," to use another of your terms.
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