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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]1. I feel like your BIL really crossed  a boundary by  offering to do it.[/b]

2. You may not want like it but the dead line is Labor Day. Fantastic for you that you have been a busy bee happily checking things off your list. DH  hasn't failed to live up to the agreement yet.  Wait.  3 weeks is plenty of time .

3. In the future don't make agreements you don't really want. And don't expect your husband to behave exactly how you would.

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+1  For one, were you complaining about your husband to your BIL?  That's not cool.  What if your husband complained to some relative that you don't cook to his liking or make what he likes (I mean, he gave you a list!)?  And then what if some female inlaw of roughly the same age offered to come over and cook a meal for your husband that he likes?

This is an issue between you and your husband.  You need to address it with him directly.  If you are unhappy that he hasn't done the things, before complaining to others, directly say to him, "I'm unhappy that you haven't done any of the things on your list.  I want to hire someone to help."

But don't get the BIL to do it.  Sure, he has a good relationship with DH now, but there's a line that, once crossed, can create lingering resentment -- possibly toward you, because your DH will know that you said something to the BIL.

It also sounds like the list idea doesn't work.  Some people don't do well when given a list of things and a long time to complete.  They get overwhelmed and procrastinate.  Instead, each week, tell him, "I need you to do [pick one item on the list] this weekend." [/quote]

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