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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No. If I felt like this was what I needed, I would get a job. [/quote]

I agree.  It doesn't sound like SAHM is for you.[/quote]

[b]DH wants me to stay home. He thinks it is best for our children. He loves our children more than anything[/b].

I want to ask for a certain amount to be placed in a separate account per month that I can spend as I choose. I was thinking $5k. For the record, I spent at least $10k per month.[/quote]

Do you want to stay home? What do you think is best for your children? Does he love you?[/quote]

It is probably best that I stay home for my children. That is why we decided together that I would quit my job. DH used to earn high six figures before I quit. The plan was that he could ramp up and work as hard as he could. It has paid off. I don't even know if he could ramp down at this point.

At the same time, I think our overall family life was better when we were both working. He and I would take turns picking up the kids. He was home more. So while our HHI is higher, our lifestyle was better. That extra 500k he earns makes no real different in our lifestyle. At the same time, if he was willing to give an extra 25k or so to my family, it would make me worlds happier.[/quote]

Are you just nuts?  You spend $10,000+ a month on yourself and household, your husband pays for your brother and you are complain you need more money?  For what?  At $10,000 a month, you probably have fancy crap and enough for 3-4- people.  If you start giving 25K to your family, especially brother, he could lose all his benefits as benefits are based off of income.  Do you even get how benefits work?  Buying him clothing, food and paying directly for some stuff is ok, go overboard and he could lose his benefits.  He's far more than generous.  You don't need paid, he's already paying you with open access to money and credit cards/[/quote]

OP - you and your brother seriously sound like entitled brats??

Are you for real??!

Why can't your brother work?

Why isn't it enough for your husband to buy a house AND pay all your brother's bills?

And now you want to give him an additional $25K/year in spending money?

What. the. fuck.

Keep on this path, and your ass will be divorced in a few years. I'm a woman and I'm disgusted by your behavior.[/quote]

My brother can't work because he is disabled.

We actually live below our means. Our house is paid off. Kids attend public school. Besides real estate taxes, we have very few expenses. We own a few properties. My brother lives in one of those properties. We have enough in savings to last us a few years. We do travel a lot. I spend much more on vacations than shopping.

I forgot I started this thread yesterday. I spoke to a friend last night. She reminded me that everyone has family problems that causes strain in a marriage. It may be the drunk MIL who you don't want around the baby, uncle with a gambling problem, the elderly grandmother no one seems to want to take care of, depression, sibling rivalry, adultery, etc. She said my problem is not so bad because DH loves me and he does take care of my family already. She knows we will find a solution and it doesn't have to be with a monthly fund transfer.

DH and I had a great morning before he went to work.[/quote]

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