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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a newly divorced mom who fully expects my ex to remarry at some point, one of my biggest fears is that the new family will supplant the existing kids. Especially if he has kids with the new wife. He's with that child all the time, and with his original kids only part of the time. It's hard to not feel like they'd be replaced in his affections.

I would urge you to do whatever you can to foster his ongoing relationship with his kids from his first marriage. [/quote]

+1.  If he's a better father to the younger kids, this may really, really, really hurt the older kids.  It's hard to see your dad treating a second family better than he treated the first, even if you know it's a good thing that he came around.  And even if it's just because his circumstances have changed (i.e., is older and makes more money and has more vacation time).

OP, make sure the kids get plenty of alone time with their dad.  Don't try to butt in on every second they're together.  I think all kids need alone time with each parent, even in the happiest of marriages, and you shouldn't be threatened by it.  Don't try to force the big happy blended family thing.  It's counterproductive.[/quote]

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