Reply to Famous last words: I would NEVER cheat!

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Famous last words: I would NEVER cheat!"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]I was a couple of years into a decent marriage, but without a lot of passion. I was definitely struggling a bit with settling into married life, my identity as a wife, etc.

Then I started traveling for work. 1-2 weeks at a time. With a group of men, I was the only woman. We were all in our mid 20s, all either single or newly married, all liked to go out for drinks at the end of the day. It was a recipe for disaster, but I totally had the "I can handle it, I'll NEVER cheat" attitude.

My first near miss was after one of those nights out. Got a little too flirty with one guy. Walking back to our hotel rooms later, we both lingered in the hall while everyone else went into their rooms. He gave me a hug goodnight, made a move to kiss me ... then I pulled back, said no, we can't cheat on our spouses, etc.  He nodded, agreed, and walked off. He never made another move on me.

But me?  I should have learned my lesson ... but I didn't. I convinced myself that I was really WAS stronger than the desire. I continued my reckless behavior, going into compromising situations, convinced that I could handle it.

A few trips later, I had a similar situation with a different guy. This time, when I started to pull back, he gave me a little space and then started pursuing again. We played cat and mouse for days. I was totally getting off on the attention, telling myself it was just innocent flirtation. Until it wasn't.

I went to his room to drop off some work stuff one evening, and he started kissing me. I started to push him back again ... but then I didn't. I kissed him back. We had sex. Crazy, passionate, all night long sex.  The next day, I told him I'd screwed up and shouldn't have done that, and wouldn't do it again. He said ok, but it didn't stop. I ended up carrying on an affair with him for about a year.

Meanwhile, I was still struggling with my marriage. I eventually decided that I couldn't repair my marriage while I was still stepping out (I know,  DUH, but sometimes those things are hard to see in the moment).  I ended the affair, and doubled down on my marriage. It worked, we are in a much better place now. He never did find out.

I still travel for work, but generally avoid tempting situations now. I know I'm not stronger than the desire. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics