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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I always feel a little disappointed when women decide to change their names, and unlike other posters I actually don't know a lot of women who kept their maiden names. I understand why they do it and truly am not judging them as individuals, but it's one of those things we all do because it's the path of least resistance (culturally, I know it's actually a lot of paperwork to get through). Engagements and weddings - like life - are just full of these antiquated, sexist little rituals, and it can be tiring to fight them all. [/quote]

Did you take on your maternal family name or your paternal family name? [/quote]

Since I was an infant I didn't have a choice. I was simply given my father's last name. I've had it since birth and now it's my name. It's how I've always been known. That's fundamentally different than up and changing your name to someone else's as an adult. Do you really not see that?

Your argument also seems to suggest that change is impossible. Unless you somehow were given a whole new last name or your mother's maiden name from the start, you can't argue against taking your husband's name? Since pretty much all women essentially have some other man's last name because of tradition, we are in no position to question or oppose that tradition? Bizarre.

Like I said, we all do what we have to do to survive in a patriarchy. I shave my legs, wear heels, makeup, and do all the other drag that's required of me even though I think it's sexist bullshit. I'm sure there are women who look at me and are disappointed. And I'm sure there are men out there who have to hype up their traditional masculinity to fit in and feel accepted. We all have our roles, we all pick and choose what lines to recite and which ones to skip. Very few walk off the stage completely, though, so none of us is really in any position to be pointing fingers and getting judgy. [/quote]

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