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+1.  I don't think what you outlined is unreasonable at all: for you to be attracted to your partner again, he has to stop causing harm to the relationship and work to repair the damage already done.  Also, really, does anyone want to have sex with someone that sucks in bed?[/quote]

How is he supposed to go about getting good in bed? Go out and practice somewhere?[/quote]

Ummm, talk to his partner?  Find out what he's doing that works and what his partner thinks he could improve on?  Be open to feedback?  The guys I've been with that sucked in bed were always the ones that were defensive any time I tried to give them any guidance on what worked/didn't work, even to the point of being jerks when I told them what they were doing was actually hurting me.  [/quote]

That only works if your partner is willing to have sex with you. If one of the reasons she isn't having sex with you is because she doesn't think you're good in bed, you're kind of in a bind.

(But, I tend to think that the 'bad in bed' thing might be a rationalization. Maybe not -- but it seems like the kind of thing where a person might re-write history. If you come to resent your partner, in your memory, their sexual performance might start to get retroactively worse because of that.) [/quote]

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