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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with the PP.  I am not telling you to cheat but this issue is just the tip of the iceberg.  Looking down the barrel of a marriage where the major need of one partners is not satisfied is not good for either of you.

And in reading some of these other comments, I fully understand why there are so many miserable marriages and why the infidelity rate is so high.  It is like many of you have said that sex is not a priority for you but yet your spouse just has to deal if it is a priority to them. Our pre-marital counselor told us point blank that infidelity is wrong.  However she said that forced celibacy and denial of intimacy to your spouse is JUST AS WRONG.  Sure, there are times when either of you are not in the mood and you should not have to do it at that point.  But truth be told, if keeping that connection with your partner is important, you will find the time and the mood on a regular basis.  Sure life happens, but I did not sign up for a long miserable, celibate marriage.  in the absence of an illness or health issue that prevents sex, forcing that on your spouse is cruel.  If that is waht some of you are doing, I could not blame your spouse one bit for having some on the side.  I could not imgaine putting up with someone's crap day after day and not being able to get some on the regular.  You cannot expect your spouse to honor the marriage compact when you aren't.  Marriage is supposed to enhance your life, not be some dreadful death march.

- a DW married for over 20 years. [/quote]

+ 1 million

I don't know where all of you gals with no interest in sex come from (did your moms tell you it was bad? Is your DH bad in bed?) but if this is your view you should set your poor husbands free. No whining because you are the mother of his children, just set him free and admit to the world that it's largely your own fault and not his.

DW of 25 years[/quote]

I just needed the sex to have my babies. Now I am fulfilled by them. My DH I need to support those two kids he helped me make and to help around the house because I'm overwhelmed. I just can't even think of sex other than for reproductive reasons. [/quote]

Okay - this must be a post from a man. And to this man - I'm really sorry for you. Honestly - really sorry.
I'll bet you went for the prettiest one but looks fade and some of those gals are wolves in sheeps clothing as they say.[/quote]

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