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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP here.  I can imagine a number of reasons a parent might not let their child have a playdate at someone else's home, but would not want to invade another family's privacy (or discuss a private matter) with an acquaintance.

I had a friend, whose child had a medical condition that required monitoring.  The child was fine, but would need medication regularly and the mother knew to watch for the signs.  She was not comfortable having her child in another home, even if she was there as it was easier to care for her child at home.  We visited them.  I have seen families where the kids had severe allergies and were wary of cross-contamination or exposure to the allergens at other homes and so kept their playdates at home.  If I had these situations, I might be loathe to discuss this until I knew the family better.  I'm pretty concerned about guns and I wouldn't want to ask another family if they had guns in their home, but without knowing if they do or don't have guns, I'm not letting my young children go to their house.  I'll gladly host their children, but until they are older and I get them to gun safety classes, I'm not letting my kids go to dropoffs at other homes.  In my case, I will (and have) do non-dropoff playdates, but not dropoff playdates.  But still, this is my personal issue, but I'm not about to ask other parents if they have guns and make a political war out of playdate invitations.[/quote]

So, if one of your daughter's friend's parents asked after sending her to your house for multiple playdates, why you don't reciprocate, what would you say? Would you just keep on making excuses?[/quote]

PP back.  If asked, I would say that I have a concern but don't want to ask an impolite question of her family.  If she wants to maintain her privacy, she can let the conversation go.  If she wants to know my reason, I'll be glad to let her know my concern about not allowing my child into a home with guns until they are old enough to have gun safety instruction.  If she asks or pursues the discussion, then I don't have an issue broaching the subject as a discussion (not a judgment against guns, just having young uninformed children around guns).[/quote]

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