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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have to say, I think she has a point. As a SAHM, it is your job to be on top of ensuring sports clothes are clean, meal prep and tidying etc.[/quote]

OP here.  Thank you all for your replies, and want to reassure you that there were significant consequences to this outrageous behavior.  FYI for those who asked, DH is supportive.  And I agree with PPs that I am engaging too much.  I love the "drop the rope" comment because it's a really easy phrase to remember when in the thick of it.  I think I'll make a post-it of this and remind myself every morning.

I want to comment on this PP.  I agree with you that for our household, the way we have work divided, it was my job to get the laundry done.  We haven't had two games in one week before, and I did not think it through, and if she had just said, "oh, no, it's not washed!" I would have apologized because I did screw up there.

But we are all working hard and we all make mistakes, and there is no excuse for berating someone and yelling "someone was LOUNGING" when they make a mistake.  This is not the behavior we have modeled and I don't know where she gets it.  And the thing that bugs me about the "lounging comment" is it is indicative of her not understanding that I work most of the day; there is so much more in my job besides housework, given that DH works long hours.

As for PP's comment above, "I think she has a point" about me being the maid, I agree with you also, and that's what causes me the consternation. Why wouldn't she think I was the maid?  She didn't see my life, my career, before kids.  She doesn't see the stuff I do besides housework.

So the two specific issues are 1) seeing me as the maid, and 2) thinking that I spend an hour or so picking up the house and then go eat bonbons for the rest of the day.

But again, my overarching issue is that unlike a maid, I am charged with raising a decent human being with good moral character and my lament is that I may be failing in that regard.[/quote]

OP, this is an excellent post.  You sound like a fabulous mom, who is just going through the terrible teens with your daughter.  Mine is 11, and unfortunately, I can see hints of this behavior on the horizon.  I'll be thinking about you (and all of us with teens) as I stumble through this stage too.[/quote]

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