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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I tried to come home and have dinner with the family, and help get kids to bed if I could, but the additional choreplay, or seeing what I could do to make my DW's life easier had no effect on her libido. Being a little more selfish with my time did lead to more sex. Perhaps I was more interesting to her or women have an instinct to bring a man back with sex if they feel him slipping? Who knows. And of course there are many women with a raging libido that would ravage their husbands if they weren't so exhausted; that wasn't my DW, YMMV.

Doing more chores and helping around the house never got any man additional sex. Those are just BS excuses offered up by women. If she wants sex she'll have sex, even with a sink full of dirty dishes. If she doesn't want sex (with you) then cleaning the toilet isn't going to get her hot. It's absurd.

There is a similar thread on explicit and someone made the point that what women want is a good husband and what turns them on to a lover are two different things. By creating a good husband they're creating a man that they have no desire to screw. PP's anecdote about doing fewer chores and being his own man...and getting more sex...makes sense.[/quote]

I am the poster that said my sex life improved when I started leaving the house more and being more selfish with my time.  I think there is an extra layer to this that was a benefit to my wife - leaving her alone.  I don't think she is unique in wanting to be left alone some nights, she seemed perfectly content to surf facebook, watch Real Housewives.  All things being equal, I am sure she would like to have a friend around - but like the previous poster said, there is a difference between being her friend and her lover.  And I understand why women would not be particularly attracted to a husband who is sitting on the couch conversing about the housewives, and while they may or may not love the idea of their husbands out at a bar or playing club basketball many nights, it is understandably more attractive than sitting around like her girlfriend, or trying to initiate sex when she isn't interested

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The DW also can get alone time by leaving the house for her own activities.[/quote]

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