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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a Korean adoptee.  When I reunited with my birth family (mother and brothers- father is long dead), I found out that my own father and his mother basically stole me from my b-mom. Yes. They told her that my twin sister and I had died during delivery, that the hospital had already cremated us, and they took us to the adoption agency  instead.  When I basically said that this was quite an unbelievable story/thing to do to one's own wife, my b-family told us that our mother and her MIL (my dad's mom) did not get along. B-grandma used to beat our mother and another DIL and drag them around the house by their hair. I asked why our b-father allowed this and they said he was very loyal to his mother.  [b]Many a Korean has told me that it was very common for MILs and DILs to hate each other.[/b]

Now, I'm ok with having been adopted.  But this is some f-ed up shit in terms of Asian family values.  All of it.[/quote]

Stick around, you'll that American MILs and DILs are exactly the same. Well, they don't drag each other around or steal babies, because there are laws against it, and they are enforced. But the rest is very similar :mrgreen: [/quote]

PP here. I myself am not a fan of my own MIL  :wink:

I think Korean issues go beyond the typical MIL/DIL issues that you'll find  here in the US.  That's because it was very common for the mother to live with the oldest son and his family. I know there are multi-generation households here in the US, but I would not say it's the norm as it was/is in Korea.  In fact, my b-mom lives with my oldest bro and you should have seen the way she bossed around his wife, who jumped to do b-mom's every bidding.[/quote]

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