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[quote=Anonymous]I actually don't get this strong and oft-stated distinction on this thread that it's somehow ok to question steady "lifestyle maintenance" but not one-off or purpose-specific gifts (unless they are for food or a cell phone in which case they are apparently viewed as lifestyle maintenance).

Personally I don't have a strong opinion that either is ok or not. What I do feel strongly is that people should recognize and acknowledge things that give them a privilege or leg up. Money is fungible! If you are getting one-off gifts you are getting help. do I have a problem with people getting family money? No! But I do have a problem with those who try to imagine away the assistance they are getting in this life.

Actually to me just the fact that you (I'll say we, i'm in this position too) have parents that do occasionally or even COULD give a gift is an enormous boost in life. In your twenties and even after, you are much freer to take risks knowing there is a safety net.  Even if you'd hate yourself for using it, it's different than it not being there. Or worse worrying that your parents look to you for their safety net.

It's fine everyone. It's fine to get the money, the education, the security.  Just appreciate it. [/quote]

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