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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When the title of this thread changes from "Mom's salary" to "one parent's salary," I'll consider reading a single post. What a bunch of BS.[/quote]

And we have a nutty PP, who says she was making 55K and her household was making 95K, so SHE was the high earner by a huge margin, but she left her job to stay at home because working would have "netted her no income."

No one should take financial advice from someone who has kids and then decides to live on 40K a year instead of 95K a year. Or 40K a year instead of 55K a year.

Although at this point I think PP is just making shit up anyhow--one of these people who just wants to make working moms feel bad. [/quote]

You are not reading, probably because you are so outraged that you can't think straight. just calm down and listen. That poster was making 55k, her H 95K, she quit to SAH and then returned to the workforce when her kids entered school. Thousands of people do it all the time and don't end up in financial ruin or destitute. Many are even quite happy.

If you are a working mom and feel bad that she chose to SAH instead of take pennies home, that is on you. She is a working mom now, just like you. My income was always too high to SAH and her choice does not make me feel bad, not sure what your hang up are, but they will eat you alive if you don't check yourself.[/quote]

I'm not outraged and she's not making me feel bad--but posts like that clearly make other people feel bad and it bugs me when people present things with such a rose-colored perspective. Others on this thread have responded thoughtfully -- some decisions have these benefits but these risks, other decisions have these benefits and these risks. Posts that say "I stayed home and am the best mommy everrrrr" just don't add to the discussion, they are just bragging or judgy (or both). [/quote]

As a working mom, I simply don't read that she thinks she's a great mom. She's was happy with her decision to take a break and focus primarily on her kids. YOU are reading that she thinks she's the best mom ever and that's your hang up.  Also, you were so quick to jump all over her and get agressive (a sure sign of anger and outrage)  that you were talking nonsense about her HHI.

I'm only responding as a working mom because some of my fellow working moms are so incredibly torn about their decision (or non optional need to work) that they just relish jumping doen the throats of women who can or manage to arrange life so that they can SAH. Own your insecurity and work on that. Trashing other will not make you feel better. I promise. I get it. I too sometimes have my heart pulling me one way and my brain the other and having those two at odds with each other is stressful, but you just have to realize other people do other things and sometimes they are happy. Their contentment  is not a judgement on you.[/quote]

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