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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I question op's premise. My kids come before my spouse and I hope he feels the same way. And I'm still on my first and hopefully only marriage. [/quote]

Yeah, not everyone feels this way; some people the spouse comes first, and in the best of all circumstances, nobody "comes first"...[/quote]

I'm OP and have often seen or heard people talk about how their marriage is the center of their lives and family.  They love their children, but the healthy marriage has to come first.  I don't necessarily share that belief, but I've heard it enough to prompt my question.

I also wonder about the statements that the children of the divorce didn't ask for this, should always come first even before children from the second marriage, etc.  You could say the same thing about the children of the second marriage since they didn't ask to be born into this.  Probably, after 7 pages, I agree that no one "wins it all" if you want to view marriages and families as contests, and in the best scenario all adults act like adults.[/quote]

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