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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A study came out that people who date 4+ years before marriage are more likely to get divorced. [/quote]

Then several people on this thread contradict that study.[/quote]

So far... But odds aren't in their future that it will last.[/quote]

correlation does not equal causation.  First of all, I don't think that the statistics are that much higher given that the rate of divorce is high in general -- so odds are 50 percent of marriages, regardless of how long they dated, won't last.

Second of all, correlation does not equal causation.  My suspicion is that people who dated a long time before marrying have more financial independence, so they are less likely to stay in an unhappy marriage because of finances.  I know examples of this -- people who married young and married quickly who are not happy in their marriages but won't even mention divorce because they are financially co-dependent to the point that divorce would mean a dramatic change in their quality of life.  But most people who date a long time before marrying are also a little bit older, so in those cases, they have supported themselves financially before getting married.  So there is less of a need to stay in an unhappy marriage.

I think marriage/divorce is complex.  So "studies" like the one you are referring to don't get at all of the nuances.  The reality is that a lot of people stay in unhappy marriages for a number of reasons, so simply saying that statistically a couple who dates more than 4 years before getting married is slightly more likely to get divorce doesn't mean that if you marry faster, you are more likely to have a happy marriage.[/quote]

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