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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Presumably this guy drank once a week before Op married him, right?  What has changed is now the Op wants to have a baby and her husband seems less than sure that he wants a child.

They need to focus in on the parenting issue first and what Op expects from her husband as a parent.  And, no, Op can not expect that her husband will give up beer just because he is a parent.  Nor can Op assume that her husband will love parenting just because he gave up beer.

This is THEIR relationship and they need to come at this 50/50 or I predict that things will go downhill for them in a hurry.

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The OP was clear that the drinking has gotten worse as they've gotten older, he drinks to drunkenness, he is unable to stop drinking until all available alcohol is gone, and that he is literally begging her for permission to drink after begins an agreed-upon period of sobriety. I think the parenting issue is secondary to the alcohol problem.

Good luck, OP. I ran with a crowd of binge drinkers for a long time, and it was difficult to tease apart what was normal for us versus problem drinking. But it seems very clear that your husband is wrestling with problem drinking. Hopefully he has not done too much damage to his health and he can address any underlying issues (ADHD and depression are common ones, mentioned earlier).

Good luck, and hugs to you. You sound like a wonderful wife.[/quote]

Op needs to figure out which version of her husband's drinking is real - does he drink once a week and is simply (very) reluctant to become a dad or is his drinking completely out of control to the point where he is making himself infertile.

Either way, Op has a pretty significant issue to deal with.  This is not a good time to be having a baby with this man.

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