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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]In many places, the explanation for such a rule is that the girls' manner of dress distracts the boys. I was told this point blank many times in high school...it was my responsibility to not wear spaghetti straps, shorts, leggings, etc because the boys can't help it. While yours seems to apply this to boys and girls, most dress codes are targeted at girls. This is dangerous, IMO, and contributes to the overall idea that boys are animals and it is my responsibility as a woman to dress in a way that doesn't provoke boys. Not to mention, I spent a lot of time out of the classroom getting my shorts measured.

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My sixth-grade daughter got this speech just the other week. The teachers pulled the girls out of PE to tell them that boys view girls in skimpy clothing as cuts of meat instead of people, and so the girls shouldn't wear skimpy clothing.[/quote]

OMG. I don't want to be smug, but... reason n. 457 to be happy I am able to homeschool. My daughter will never hear that kind of baloney during her education time.[/quote]

I'm the PP with the sixth-grade daughter. I'd be happiest if such baloney didn't even exist. But unfortunately it does exist. So learning about it is also part of her education, and so is deciding whether, when, and how to respond to it.[/quote]

I've written about this in another thread, but I agree that this seems to be very common. I only have a kindergarden aged girl, but we were sitting in the school library after school one day and overheard a 10th grade class meeting. Our school has a very reasonable, gender neutral dress code. Sleeves are neccesary. No holes or torn clothing. No writing or graphics other than a logo. No athletic shorts.  Nothing short or low enough to reveal areas normally covered by underwear.... I think that's about it.

Still, the 10th grade advisor made a point of how the infractions of the female students involved outfits that were making the male students and teachers uncomfortable and that no one wanted to see their cleavedge and bums. (To quote). SHe spend about 1/4 of the time discussing the boy's infractions, which were problematic because the boys were role models and the middle school boys would be more likely to break code if the high schoolers were. I've never even thought about this distinction before, and I was apalled by the end of the meeting. [/quote]

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