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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Obviously I don't know what it's like to be a parent.
I agree with that 100%.
This experience did give me a good idea of what day to day life would be like.
These are my observations:
1. My house was an absolute mess by the time the children left.
2. I can't have nice furniture and have children.
3. I barely spoke to my husband. We were both too busy wrangling children to communicate about anything other than what was happening at the exact moment.
4. I didn't want to be touched by my husband at the end of the day.
5. I spent A LOT of money.
6. I felt like a zombie amd was exhausted the entire time.

I took 2 personal days in order to do this.  I can't imagine having to work full-time, raise children and keep a house in order.  These things, I feel, are fair representations of things you experience and go through being a parent.  These things happen whether you're caring for your own children or someone else's child.[/quote]

OP, married mother of two here - a preschooler and a baby. I love my children but good for you knowing what you like and sticking to it. The thing is, the things you list are not mandatory side-effects (some people don't mind mess; can afford kids easily; have enough energy/sex drive to have time and desire for their spouse at the end of the day) and also you've been thrown from nothing into full-time with no preparation (9 months of pregnancy; months where the baby can't even roll over).

As someone who loved spontaneous trips, theater and almost daily dinner out, you do have to curtail those sorts of things at the very least. But by the time we had our first, we were together for a decade and found ourselves more focused on kids and less on trips (only so many you can take before it becomes humdrum). It would not have helped us to mind someone else's kids either because I have zero interest in any children but my own. [/quote]

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