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I do appreciate the other comments from PPs who took the time. It seems the overwhelming advice is to stay true to myself and NOT chase parenting if it something I see as taking away more than what it adds to my life. [b]I don't necessarily think a vasectomy is for me, although I have seriously considered. It still does not take away the need to be a parent, because I could still change my mind further on and adopt, or be a step-dad to my partner's child. [/b]So I don't limit parenting to just biologically parenting here, I mean the institution of parenting. So in dating I choose women who are not mothers and who have no intention of being, if she is seeing the relationship over the long-term. I am always fully honest and open, just in case some PPs think I am not and am some type of player.

Thanks again for your comments

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It sounds to me like you're not willing to stand behind your choice not to have children. Losing the ability to father children takes away most scenarios with children - you'd have to actually date someone with a child to be a stepdad (which is up to you), and you'd have to decide to adopt. None of these choices can be sprung up on you as readily as pregnancy.

You are just really not sure whether you want children.  You are NOT sure that you do not want children. If you were committed to the childless life, you'd get snipped already. [/quote]

Isn't it kind of obvious that a committed person wouldn't seek opinions from anonymous strangers? Obviously, he is not sure, hence the questions. Nothing wrong with that.[/quote]
No, there's nothing wrong with that. This is why I'm offering him a litmus test of how he really feels. In my opinion, a man who is committed to not having children will have no problem getting snipped. If this option gives him pause, that means in his heart he did not close for himself the possibility of children. [/quote]

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