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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a wife who has lost interest in sex. With my spouse, at least. He is at best mediocre in bed and is also a giant, repressed prude. He starts with this weird baby talkish thing if he wants sex, or will make some attempting-to-be-funny "sexy" dance. It turns me off instantly. Listen, when I'm trying to bear the thought of having sex with you - because I am NOT interested and you do not satisfy me, ever - please don't add fuel to the anti-sex fire.

I wish I could tell him this, but he has quite possibly the worlds most fragile ego, about EVERYTHING. Commenting on lack of sexual satisfaction would mean he'd never be brave enough to try again for fear of failure.

It's not that I'm not interested in sex. Trust me that there's a coworker I'd nail in a hot second. Mmmmmm.  [/quote]

Yep.  I think the entitlement so many men feel around sex adds to the problem.  Instead of trying to find a way to seduce their wife, they make awkward jokes or just straight up ask, instead of doing anything to get their partner in the mood.

It's almost like they dont even realize their partner is a sexual person, with their own sexual preferences and pleasure. They just think their wife should have sex with them because [b]they [/b] want sex and wife is supposed to satisfy that like some robot, with no concern for her own libido.

Just because a wife isn't sleeping with her husband doesnt mean she has no libido.  LOTS of women read romance novels, lots of women watch movies like Magic Mike, and trust me, well all get turned on.  The problem arises when we know that sexy times with our DH is going to feel more like a chore than an exciting, sexually [b]fulfilling[/b] and [b]satisfying[/b] act. [/quote]

It's a two way street. If the sex is a chore, you are just as much to blame as he is. For some reason, a lot of women have this attitude where they basically absolve themselves of any responsibility for how sex turns out. If the sex is boring, it's always because HE isn't doing something right, instead of thing about how it as a team.[/quote]

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