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[quote=Anonymous]What kind of person neglects the needs of of their spouse?  I will tell you what happened in my marriage.  When my kids were little, I did all the night wakeups and feedings, and the vast majority of the infant care.  My DH was well-rested and got 8 hours of sleep per night and never helped out around the house.  I worked two jobs, did all the house stuff and never slept more than two hours in a row for a year because my babies both had colic and reflux, but my husband "needs his sleep more than I do."  Yeah, I didn't feel much like having a lot of sex with him, because I was tired during those years.  He was frustrated with it and I offered solutions that included him taking over some of the work so that I could be more rested and therefore have energy for sex.  He would do it for a day or two, get his "reward" and then go back to having me do everything.

The truth of the matter is that I can't do everything.  I run out of energy, and if he wasn't willing to do his share, then I was not willing to get absolutely no sleep so that I could "meet his emotional needs" for more sex.  Now that our kids are sleep better, we have more sex again.  I like sex!  but if DH had tried to blame me for pushing him away, I would have eviscerated him.  His lazy ass not helping enough was the reason he wasn't getting any, not me.  And he knew it because I would tell him explicitly.  He just didn't want to change, and that's on him.[/quote]

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