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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Parent of two straight-A boys here and a family of teachers. Education #1 priority in my home. We are strict as hell about it. We used to have a "no C's or you are grounded till your next report card" rule.  We did all the right things. Everything was fine.

What threw us for a loop? Having a daughter who tests on the low end of average intelligence. All our expectations and plans went out the window.   She tries hard, follows all of the same rules our boys do, and gets C's and maybe a couple of B's.   Is it bad parenting? Nope. Its called being HUMAN.

Sometimes, you don't get the straight A kid with the high intelligence come out of your womb.  It happens.  If it didn't happen, the world would be full of high intelligence folks, which is a pretty easy thing to determine is NOT the case lol.

OP, what I would suggest is having your daughter IQ tested. See what you are dealing with.  Where should your expectations be? You don't have to have the same rules for all of your kids.  Its called good parenting to know your kid and have expectations and rules that are different and appropriate for each kid.

I'd also suggest if you DO find that your daughter is not an academic star in the IQ department, figure out what DOES make her tick.  Some people aren't super academic smart but everyone has something about them that can contribute great things to this world.  Find that thing, and push HARD on her in that department, and suddenly you'll see confidence rise.  This takes TIME.  Be patient.

Do not suggest going to the school.  I think your daughter is in high school, right? At least at our high school, parents who step in and contact teachers etc to determine "what went wrong" as a PP suggested are viewed as bad parents, because they are not allowing their kid to be in control of their own issues.  Its tempting to do it, but you'll most likely get slammed.  I'd only suggest going to the school if you DIDNT suspect that this was, as you said, pure laziness.  If you suspect depression/suicide/learning disabilities, that's a different story and being proactive at the school level is different.

That's my two cents for today !  :)

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I'm the poster with straight A kids that I believe you called smug.  If you are the same poster, you had originally stated that you have two academic superstars and one child with an average IQ.  I'm a little confused by what you wrote. You state that you had a grounded until next report card rule for a "C"- why would you have that rule if your kids were straight A students?  Were they not always straight A students/were there any consequences for B's? I would think it would be more likely that you would have a rule for "B's" if you were strict as "hell" - like you put it.

Also you stated that you have two academic super stars and one child with average intelligence.  In your prior post you wrote that you have a child with low average intelligence which is conventionally defined as someone who has a IQ that puts them in the bottom 20-25% of the population. If my child had an IQ in the bottom 20-25% percent of the population of course I would have different standards.  I don't know what those standards would be but they would be at the top of what someone in that IQ range would be capable of achieving and I would work hard with my child.

OP- I disagree with you making your child pay for summer school.  I think the fact that she has to go to summer school is probably punishment enough for her and making her pay will just take away from the time that she has to devote to her studies.  That being said, I'd be completely on top of her for the rest of the school year.  The would be no activities, no friends, no car, no cell phone nothing until she brought her grades up.  If she has been a C student for a while, you can't expect straight A's- but there is no reason why she can't bring her grades up to a B average if as you say she does not have a LD.  However, she'll need a lot of support from you to do that.  [/quote]

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