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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many schools will only award A's to - at most - 10% of the class, regardless of mastery. So tiger mom above - do you come down hard on your kid if they aren't in the top 10% in all of their classes? [/quote]

We haven't had that problem.[/quote]

I'm happy that God gave you kids who can handle your expectations.  I warn you that it isn't all about your parenting.  The universe has a way of punishing people as smug as you.  I used to have an A student.  Now he is not.  Parenting my child isn't easy, and demanding more than he can do right now would only result in worse outcomes.  I have learned some humility.  I hope you can find some.
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Why do you think demanding more will result in a worse outcome?[/quote]

I'm a PP from page 2 who hasn't checked this thread for a few days.  I'm also Chinese and have known many, many Tiger Moms over the years from my parents generation to my own.  It doesn't always turn out well.  I've known several Tiger families that had similar types of rules.  Kids who were grounded and forced to study all day from when they got home until bedtime for a B.  I've known several families who forced the children through essentially schoolwork hell to get them to achieve.  And some achieve magnificently.  I knew one guy who was pushed and pushed.  He became a National Merit scholarship winner, earned a scholarship to Harvard and graduated magna cum laude.  He went on to become a very successful doctor and he hasn't spoken to his parents since he graduated college.  I've known any number of kids who became estranged to their parents because their parents were school taskmasters, but never actually parented them.  Remember to be their parent.  Education is important, but there's a lot more to parenting than school and getting them into the right college.

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