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[quote=Anonymous]Parent of two straight-A boys here and a family of teachers. Education #1 priority in my home. We are strict as hell about it. We used to have a "no C's or you are grounded till your next report card" rule.  We did all the right things. Everything was fine.

What threw us for a loop? Having a daughter who tests on the low end of average intelligence. All our expectations and plans went out the window.   She tries hard, follows all of the same rules our boys do, and gets C's and maybe a couple of B's.   Is it bad parenting? Nope. Its called being HUMAN.

Sometimes, you don't get the straight A kid with the high intelligence come out of your womb.  It happens.  If it didn't happen, the world would be full of high intelligence folks, which is a pretty easy thing to determine is NOT the case lol.

OP, what I would suggest is having your daughter IQ tested. See what you are dealing with.  Where should your expectations be? You don't have to have the same rules for all of your kids.  Its called good parenting to know your kid and have expectations and rules that are different and appropriate for each kid.

I'd also suggest if you DO find that your daughter is not an academic star in the IQ department, figure out what DOES make her tick.  Some people aren't super academic smart but everyone has something about them that can contribute great things to this world.  Find that thing, and push HARD on her in that department, and suddenly you'll see confidence rise.  This takes TIME.  Be patient.

Do not suggest going to the school.  I think your daughter is in high school, right? At least at our high school, parents who step in and contact teachers etc to determine "what went wrong" as a PP suggested are viewed as bad parents, because they are not allowing their kid to be in control of their own issues.  Its tempting to do it, but you'll most likely get slammed.  I'd only suggest going to the school if you DIDNT suspect that this was, as you said, pure laziness.  If you suspect depression/suicide/learning disabilities, that's a different story and being proactive at the school level is different.

That's my two cents for today !  :)

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