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[quote=Anonymous][quote=dcguy][quote=Anonymous]Currently on a business trip overseas. Last night I got incredibly drunk and slept with a colleague. He is a foreign affiliate and I only  see him twice a year. I do not have feelings for him. I was drunk and caught up in the moment. I have never ever cheated on my husband and I am just so devastated. I don't know what to do. Should I call my husband? I feel so sick over this. My husband is a good man and we have a good marriage. I would do anything to take it back. Has anyone been through anything similar? Can anyone offer me advice? Please help.[/quote]

The advice you've received not to tell will only work if you are not consumed by guilt.   If your relationship with DH is as good as you say it is, then the guilt will be that much worse. Regardless of how hard you try, the guilt will change your behavior. DH will sense it and things will unravel. If you really love him, trust him and want to be true to the marriage, then tell him when you get home. (and then leave this message board forever!)

On the other hand:  Are there are some underlying reasons why you let yourself get drunk with a male co-worker that you found attractive enough to sleep with while you were staying at a hotel? When women cheat, there is usually some built up resentment and alienation that drives them to do so.  Ironically, if this is the case for you you are more likely to be able to keep your secret as your resentment will allow you to justify the deceit.  In the meantime, you should work on whatever underlying issues are there and your marriage may come out stronger in the end. (and then welcome to this message board forever!)

Only you know which category you fall into.  Make sure you are honest with yourself so you can act accordingly.[/quote]

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