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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]AH, I totally get it.  I would be frustrated by that too.  What can I say?  Casual sexism is alive and well and built into our patriarchal society.  At least you know you are fighting the good fight[/quote]

Yep. This is why we decided to give our kid my last name and not DH's. Enough with these assumptions. Naming traditions are rooted in pretty nasty history of women being akin to property - which isn't to say that changing your name is weak or makes you property. Take DH's name, hyphenate, keep yours, whatever you want. But it's a personal choice and that choice should be respected.[/quote]

We did this, too!  You're the only other one I've encountered on DCUM.  Let's be friends.  :-)[/quote]

OK!  (Were you kidding?)  (Was I just scary?)[/quote]

Totally wasn't kidding.  I need more awesome mom friends.  :-)  [/quote]

To the both of you -- when you name your child with the mother's last name, the normal American world thinks that your husband is the child's stepfather or  if it's obvious that your husband is the child's father, we think you are not married. It's not misogynistic, it's just our culture. Pat yourself on the back, but the average person a going to assume divorce or illegitimate child. Congrats on your stand against society.[/quote]

Woman with own name and child with my name here....you're making my exact point. You're under the impression that there is such a thing as a typical (you say "normal") American - these old-fashioned conventions simply do not factor for many people.  They factor for you - that's fine.  Oh, I'm also not American, nor am I "Mrs." anything. I'm "Dr."  My world =\= your world. There is no "western system of values."[/quote]

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