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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This, PP! I cannot believe women, smart women do not realize how freaking risky it is to be a SAHM. I am the poster who's 51, with five girl friends going through horrific divorces. It is so, so short sighted to stay home beyond a short period of time and it is incredibly stupid to not take one's self seriously enough to make sure you have a plan to get back into the workforce once your kids are a bit older (i.e. retrain or new degree, etc.).

I am incredibly lucky. I did the SAHM thing for five years. But I also kept my certification valid, worked on professional development, went to conferences, and eventually went back and my career is fine. In fact, it is great. My friends who are going through divorces are all good, smart women. Their marriages weren't the strongest (obvi), but from an outside perspective, things really went downhill when the time came for them to look into working again and they just weren't ready for prime time. Their frustration, boredom, and angst manifested itself.  The husbands clearly checked out and the whole mom does everything and is all knowing and dad works thing just sets the stage for affairs, checking out, and just leaving.

These women should have protected themselves. I'm not saying working would have saved their marriages. I am definitely saying their lives would have been easier now if they had taken the time to invest in themselves and their own worth by keeping their careers at least viable.[/quote]

How do you know which SAHMS are keeping up with their certifications, etcetera? There seems to be a lot of sweeping judgements on here .
Frankly I don't care , it is no ones business that I have a trust that I get annual income from , for example , and am not at all worried about finances since its more than my husbands income ( and it's just interest , not touching principal ) but since I say nothing about it I realize the assumptions people may make about me[/quote]

But your situation is the exception rather than the rule.[/quote]

Right. My point was more about not making sweeping judgements about SAHM's you may know . There seems to be a lot of speculation over the state of marriage, what someone is going to do if they get divorced , etc. I'm simply asking how you could possibly know that the SAHM down the street from you is the needy, husband dependent leech many of you seem hell bent on characterizing SAHMs as. 
Myself and a PP who kept up on her certifications and got her old job back seem to be doing just fine.[/quote]

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