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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I could just tell that the man I married would be an excellent father -- sensitive, intelligent and not really into hanging out with the guys. I was right. He's been a great dad to our three kids. On the flip side, he's not as Alpha as I'd sometimes like, but you can't have everything.[/quote]

what do you mean by not as "Alpha"?[/quote]

He's great, but he's just not the aggressive, risk-taking type. This tends to present as a problem at times in his career and in our sex life. Don't get me wrong, I love him. But sometimes I wish I wasn't the one making all the first moves and out-earning him. No one is perfect, though. I count my blessings.[/quote]

I'm a new poster and I agree with this.  I didn't read the whole thread so I'm sure there were people jumping all over you, but this has played out in my own life.  Used to date the alpha, super business-y, aggressive types.  They generally didn't treat me as well as they should have and more than one cheated.  My husband is a kind, reserved, unassuming guy from a family of teachers in the South, unlike the DC-money types I dated before him.  He's not a doormat - we stand up to each other equally - but he isn't aggressive at work and therefore not a high earner, isn't as social as I am, etc.  On the other hand, though, he is a fabulous father and does more than his share around the house.  For those of you who will jump in a say "my husband does too!  And he's a biglaw partner!" I'm explaining MY experience.  Of my friends, those who married the types we used to call "men of the people" in college - the in-your-face, fratty types - tend to be much less happy overall.[/quote]

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