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OP here. I think what drives me nuts is that she also works full time, and has double the number of kids in her house than I do, and she is so much more ... everything than I am. She works out regularly, cooks dinners every night (real dinners, not mac & cheese dinners), always has patience, isn't too tired, never seems frazzled, etc. She is exactly the type of mother I wanted to be but failed spectacularly at.

Here's an example: she sent me an email on October 1 saying what my kids want to be for Halloween, is that okay with me, and if so would I like to make the costume or would I like her to do it with the kids? (I never made my kids costumes - DH always just went to the store and bought them.) Also, she will of course send me lots of pics, and she's hosting a Halloween party on Saturday and I'm welcome to drop by if I like. (I had them for Halloween last year and this isn't my weekend.) And if I show up at this party, she will have my favorite drink and have prepped the kids to give me my favorite candies from their candy stash. To her, this is not going out of her way at all. [/quote]

OP - I don't blame you for how you feel at all.   It's irritating that she's so seemingly perfect and has strengths where you do not -- but you're not really allowed to be irritated or jealous or angry because your kids benefit from it.  Rock and hard place.

However, I think your time is coming.  You may not be the super crafty mom that makes their childhood's magical -- but they are only children for short period.  While appreciate all my SAH mom did for me -- I could really use a parent who could give me career advice or help me figure out how to juggle and prioritize my own responsibilities.  Your strengths and experiences will shine in another part of their life. [/quote]

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