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Is it mean that I teach my DC to deal with disappointments?

So, if your K cries because another kid won a prize and your kid didn't, would you run out and buy your DC a prize?  Wow. That's teaching your DC ...oh what's it called... oh I know... the world revolves and caters to what you want.   [/quote]
But this is different.  It's more like the time I realized that the function was formal, but I was wearing jeans and felt uncomfortable all day.  I'm grown, so I didn't cry, but I sure would have been pissed if I was in that situation because someone else had messed up.[/quote]

NP. Good analogy. I would like to think that in that scenario if I had called DH at home and been able to give sufficiently specific info on what I wanted he could have made a quick trip to bring me the appropriate outfit and jewelry. I've done something similar for him on many occasions.

If a family member or close friend of mine has an oops moment and forgets something that results in them being/feeling horribly out of place in a situation or otherwise in a bind and I reasonably can make an attempt to fix it without too much inconvenience, I'm likely to do so. This would obviously not apply if it were a child with a pattern of irresponsibility at an age where the responsibility was reasonable to expect, but this was a one time instance of a K kid and his parents all forgetting about a special occasion at school.

I don't think OP's DH was completely out of line because I think there's merit to both taking the forgotten PJs and trying to teach the kid that this was a minor thing not worth causing a fuss or a special trip. But if I were OP's DH with only the details provided in the OP I probably would have brought the PJs to the kid.[/quote]

My DC feeling uncomfortable or upset because DC is the only one without something is also a teachable moment to DC - there will be many times you won't have what everyone else has, where you are the only one who is wearing brown shoes when everyone else is wearing blue shoes, etc..  It's ok to feel badly about it, but you have to learn to deal with it.  You say, "I'm so sorry that we forgot.  Next time, let's put it on the calendar.  I know you were upset, but sometimes you won't have what all the other kids have."

DC was the only one in his class that didn't get a yearbook (this is ES).  I told DC why I didn't give him the money for one.  He was very upset.  But he learned to deal with it.

Taking 45 min off work to make your DC feel comfortable is not reasonable, IMO. If he soiled his pants or forgot his jacket when it's 30 degrees outside, then yes, I would drive 45min out of my way to make DC more comfortable, but not because he forgot his PJs on PJ day.[/quote]

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