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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is what is wrong with black tie weddings: You are inviting people AS YOUR GUESTS but requiring them to [b]conform to a dress code that will, for some of them, COST THEM MONEY. You are, in a sense, charging admission to your wedding.[/b] That is just rude and ill-mannered, particularly since they are also going to be bringing you a gift.

What your black tie invitation says is: I only want you if you can present yourself in the manner to which I would like to become accustomed. You are not saying: I want you, my friend/loved one, to join me in celebrating the start of my next new adventure in life.

Some people live lives that involve frequent, or even occasional wearings of floor-length dresses and tuxedos. But there are very many people, I would actually say a majority, who haven't worn a full-length dress or tux since they went to the prom or got married themselves. Your black-tie invitation asks people to spend time and money outfitting themselves with items they may never wear again. It is as if you have asked every guest to be a bridesmaid or groomsman.

[b]I don't own a long dress in any color[/b] and I'd be pissed if I had to spend even $25 to buy one to attend someone's wedding. It's not the $25, it's the time needed to find something I will likely never wear again.[b] I would feel different about it if I had to buy a long dress to attend a White House dinner or the Oscars. But guess what, Bride? Your wedding is neither of those things. It is not the social event of the season or a one-in-a-lifetime event (for your guests).[/b]

My DH is 50 years old. He hasn't had occasion to wear a tuxedo in 20 years. The notion that it is "worth it" for him to run out and buy one to wear as a guest to someone's wedding is patently ridiculous. He'll likely only wear it again if I bury him in it.[/quote]

you and your post reek of obnoxious judgment. i'd hate to be your 'friend' or someone that invited you to a wedding. basically, you suck and sound like the kind of person who just wants to bitch about something, always.

-guess what, newsflash: weddings cost guests money, in some way or another. whether it's for the gift, gas to get there, plane ticket, hotel, or a dress. it costs money. 
-how do you not own a single long dress?
-if you spent the $25 to buy a single long black dress....GASP....you would never have to worry about buying another long dress again, and thus you'd have a go-to dress for just about any semiformal/formal event in the future. 
-i felt honored to attend my friends' weddings. no, they were not a state dinner or the oscars, but they were important days for my friends, and thus, for me too. i'm proud to attend my friends' weddings, casual or black tie, b/c i'm there to support them.
-i feel sorry for your DH. you sound like an icy wench.[/quote]

I'm not PP but I don't own a long dress. I get invited to truly nice weddings about once every 5-7 years. Other than that I'd have no occasion to wear it and it would be taking up space in my closet. It's really not that uncommon.[/quote]

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