Reply to Black-tie wedding

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Black-tie wedding - how to afford?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is what is wrong with black tie weddings: You are inviting people AS YOUR GUESTS but requiring them to conform to a dress code that will, for some of them, COST THEM MONEY. You are, in a sense, charging admission to your wedding. That is just rude and ill-mannered, particularly since they are also going to be bringing you a gift.

What your black tie invitation says is: I only want you if you can present yourself in the manner to which I would like to become accustomed. You are not saying: I want you, my friend/loved one, to join me in celebrating the start of my next new adventure in life.

Some people live lives that involve frequent, or even occasional wearings of floor-length dresses and tuxedos. But there are very many people, I would actually say a majority, who haven't worn a full-length dress or tux since they went to the prom or got married themselves. Your black-tie invitation asks people to spend time and money outfitting themselves with items they may never wear again. It is as if you have asked every guest to be a bridesmaid or groomsman.

I don't own a long dress in any color and I'd be pissed if I had to spend even $25 to buy one to attend someone's wedding. It's not the $25, it's the time needed to find something I will likely never wear again. I would feel different about it if I had to buy a long dress to attend a White House dinner or the Oscars. But guess what, Bride? Your wedding is neither of those things. It is not the social event of the season or a one-in-a-lifetime event (for your guests).

My DH is 50 years old. He hasn't had occasion to wear a tuxedo in 20 years. The notion that it is "worth it" for him to run out and buy one to wear as a guest to someone's wedding is patently ridiculous. He'll likely only wear it again if I bury him in it.[/quote]

You are so ridiculous - If a couple wants to have a nice, formal affair, its their choice.  I am sure that the couple and their family are paying a bundle for the wedding and are doing their best to provide you with a really nice evening (good food, drinks, decorations, music, etc.) so they can celibate the marriage.   No one is trying to make you feel bad and uncomfortable. If you don't want to go, then don't go.  [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics