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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I hate to break it to you--but your kids are getting what they deserve.  This is called a natural consequence.

It's a pretty simple equation--- if you pick on people, some of them are going to get ticked off and lash out at you.  The message to your son should be -- "i'm sorry that your friend lost his temper, I guess you shouldn't pick on him again."   I would focus on that rather than whether it's "worse to tease or be physical."   Yes, it would be lovely if all kids and adult could give your child a better consequence than pysical retaliation.  But, in the real world, if you act like a jerk, occassionally you're going to meet someone that will call you out for your crappy behavior.  In boy world that is occassionally going to be phsical.

You are not doing your son any favor by trying to make his "friends" put up with his crap.  Work with him to learn how to interact more appropriately and read the social cues to learn when he is crossing the line and to STOP when people are getting irritated.  Querry--would you be happier if the boy that your kids was teasing marshalled all his friends to verbally tease your boys in retaliation?  Would that be better?

I have come across kids like yours in my son's grade.  Their parents think they are the victims when they are really the instigators.  Often the same parents, if they are around at all, have the nose in the I-phone and conveinently miss the crappy thing their kid did to irritate their "friends." 
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um, this is actually called victim-blaming.  [/quote]

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