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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ultimately, what's fascinating about this thread, is more of the level of "understanding."

This same thread, if the cheating gender was male, would be all about how he's a piece if shit, regardless of the SAME reasons being used to cheat.

I'm not here to start a gender war.  There are plenty of threads for that. Let's just ADMIT, finally, that women are motivated to cheat for the same reasons as men, and there's no 60-40 split to it, either. Women are just as bad. [/quote]

I'm the PP who cheated and left. I actually do not buy the gender differences either. I think that people are unhappy in marriages for a lot of reasons. For me, it was not like I was a serial cheater addicted to sex or the chase or whatever serial cheaters are into. I think that it's a lot more socially acceptable for men to be serial cheaters in that way - meet women at bars, frequent escort services, have inappropriate relationships with interns. I think it's a lot less socially acceptable for women to behave in the same way.

There is a special degree of condemnation for women who cheat that men do not get - unfairly, I think, because it's just assumed that "that's what men do". There's another thread about how a cheated on wife wants to call up the "skank" her husband cheated with who is now pregnant and tell her she's going to be a bad mom. I do not see anywhere near the same vitriole for the husband who cheated on his pregnant wife, or the condemnations of his parenting caliber.

I think that when we expend energy trying to come up with the differences between men and women, we overlook the ways in which all PEOPLE are similar. The things that all PEOPLE want out of their lives and the ways in which all PEOPLE can hurt other people. [/quote]

Men and women ARE different, thank goodness.  A woman is penetrated, a man is not.  A woman can have multiple orgasms, but it is more difficult for her to have one than a man.  A man is judged much more critically on bedroom skills than a woman ever is - just read the threads in DCUM.  Also, a woman can have sex whenever she wants, a man cannot unless he sometimes wants to pay for it.  It has been that way since the Romans.[/quote]

I'm a woman, and I can't have sex whenever I want. I'm married.[/quote]

You could walk into an upscale lounge and leave with someone any night you wanted.[/quote]

That's ridiculous.  No, I couldn't any more than you could.  I'm of average attractiveness and average weight (yeah, i had kids).  Sure, a really attractive woman can do that, but so can a really attractive man.[/quote]

You are wrong, of course. A man can dress up and hit the lounge, bar, etc. He'll probably strike out. You, of "average attractiveness," could put on a skirt, heels, and men will salivate. Simple truth. [/quote]

No, simple conjecture.  Based on nothing other than your biases.[/quote]

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