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[quote=Anonymous]Low drive female NP here. I also have kids 5 and 7. Like your wife I was never feeling up to sex during pregnancy or breast feeding. E.g., my breasts, which had been part of how I felt sexy, became 1) full of milk and 2) associated with my baby...so not a turn-on in bed!
In addition to the counseling suggestion, I want to suggest that you explore whether birth control is affecting her libido. Here is an article from the ny times:
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/10/health/10cons.html?_r=0
I had the Miruna IUD until I read up on how it too can impact libido (the above article is about pills though). My doctor here, different from the doctor that had put it in, agreed that it has a reputation for decreasing desire. I decided to have it removed. I figured I could trade in my handy birth control if it would help my marriage; I knew my husband was feeling rejected,but wasn't about to have sex if it was going to involve me faking being interested.
Did it help to remove the IUD? Yes,partly. One month later I had some raging desires that my husband enjoyed. Since then the improvement is mild but I"ll take it. Another thing that helps is being attuned to the time of the month when my desire spikes. You could track it if you follow her cycle. My DH is kind of clueless so I try to be mindful Of it and then strike while the iron is hot , I.e., initiate it.
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