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[quote=Anonymous]I once dated a man who was a virgin until he was around 30.

He is actually a well-known musician (but not until a couple of years after we broke up). He was still working a day job at the time we were dating.

I actually didn't know that he was a virgin until after we had been dating for several months, long after we started having sex. I literally had no idea. I do remember him being a bit passive at first, but it was nothing to make me think that he was a virgin the first time. He got better (and more aggressive, in a nice way) in time. He was not shy about giving oral either.

He was a bit of a loner and was uncomfortable, and would try to change the subject, whenever the subject of past relationships came up. I'm honestly not sure if he ever had a real girlfriend prior to me. He seemed to have no close friends, although this wasn't obvious at first.  He wasn't religious and he was in good physical shape, so it was definitely something with his personality.

He was super smart and funny though, and was extremely sweet, in a shy and gentle sort of way. He didn't come across as socially awkward, other just being a bit shy. I remember being at his house and him playing me early versions of a couple of songs which were later released on an album.

We broke up because he dumped me very abruptly -- literally on the spot, without warning during an argument. It was nothing to do with him being a late-bloomer. He was very sensitive to criticism (I know, a musician/artist who is sensitive to criticism!) and he constantly would get upset if he thought I was "judging" him or attacking him. I think his long prolonged virginity was due to this paranoia. I met his parents a couple of times, and I got the impression that his mother was pretty overbearing and critical, which probably fucked him up.

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