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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a man and cannot speak for any women on this forum and their experience, but I can relate my mother's experience.

I recently asked her how old my brother was - he was the youngest of us - was when she went back to work.  My mother was an RN and she worked at least part-time until my brother was born.  My father was military and later a civilian lawyer.

She said she went back to work full-time when my brother was about 10 and the motivating factor was that a neighbor two doors down was widowed and left with virtually nothing and had to start at the bottom in terms of building up experience and a career.

So, she decided to go back to work full-time to be in the workforce and to be able to provide for herself independent of my father.

My parents were married for 45 years until my father's death, but my mother never ever regretted going back to work.

[b]There is really no reason, especially after the kids reach full-time school age, for SAHM's to stay home, especially if they are educated and can work.  Of course, this does not account for parents dealing with SNs or otherwise handicapped children. [/b]
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Thank you for mansplaining!

How about "both parents still want a parent at home after school" as a reason for someone to still stay home?[b] It amazes me that people are so wed to a paycheck that they think everyone should work even when they don't have to.[/b]

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So. Does your husband only work the exact hours he needs to survive... or is he so wedded to a paycheck that he works more hours, away from his children, raised by a single mom.[/quote]

I think you are totally missing the point. In this case, one parent doesn't WANT to work. And the other one is okay with that. This isn't a value judgment against those who work. [/quote]

The mansplainer... said it makes sense for the SAHP to go back to work once the children are in school.

The defensive SAHP said that this means this couple is wedded to a paycheck. There is a reason if you want to mitigate risk for a SAHP to at least go back part time in the off chance there is an injury, illness, death or divorce. This is not really about WANTING to work or NOT WANTING to work. My teenager... does not want to work, but he is working. You can't just live off the dole. More than likely if there is an injury/illness, the family with 1 working parent will live off the dole.  [/quote]

Do people really not have insurance?  We have life, long-term disability and short-term disability. We won't live off the dole. Maybe people should plan a bit better?[/quote]

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