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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex told me he was no longer attracted to me and divorced me.[/quote]
Not much detail given but let me make a few assumptions,  leading up to a question for all:
[u]Assumption 1[/u] you gained some significant weight during marriage (ie, he WAS attracted to you at your pre-marriage weight, but NOT attracted to your current weight).
[u]Assumption 2[/u] prior to reaching the point of divorce, he communicated his loss of attraction to you, and you were unable or unwilling to lose weight.

With those assumptions, here is my question to the forum:
What could the husband have done differently about his loss of attraction that would have not ended in divorce?
Seriously, is there some mature way of dealing with this that does NOT alienate the wife but actually motivates her to lose the weight gained during marriage?
This isn't about a few invisible pounds, rather let's say 30+ pounds which really does change one's physical appearance.

I have seen (first hand) divorced women, who had gained significant weight during marriage, then suddenly get thin again to resume dating.
This just seems so wrong all around.

Help a guy out here: wife gained 40lbs, definitely not attracted, not ready to divorce over it, seeking helpful advice.

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