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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]White lady here. I grew up lower MC in a heavily Latino neighborhood. Everyone spanked and hit their kids. Fast forward to now- I am well off and guess what? Most my friends who are also well-off spank or hit their kids! They just don't admit to it as freely and won't do it in public. I believe the higher the SES, the more things are done in private. That's my hypotheses and I am sticking to it.[/quote]

Clearly higher SES individuals spank less than lower status families. I know very few people that spank their kids, and the data bear this out:

http://www.world-science.net/othernews/090924_spanking.htm

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2759998/

http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/CP36.pdf
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Sorry but these are self-reported.[/quote]

(FYI. I am an anti-spanking, as in [b]it should be outlawed[/b]. But as I posted above the studies rely on self-reporting, which I think is unreliable.)[/quote]

Why should it be outlawed?  I guess I shouldn't be too surprised, but for an area that is supposed to be more worldly and sophisticated people here seem to think their way is the best and only way.  There are billions of people around the world that spank their kids.  How is your way better than another culture's way?  Because studies have shown xyz?  Those studies are skewed and don't apply to every culture.
 
I'm not saying that the case that OP saw is ok.  I'm saying there are different ways to parent, and spanking judiciously when it's called for doesn't mean the child will be scarred for life.

This is what happens when you don't firmly discipline kids. Read the link about Sweden.  This country is in danger of ending up like Sweden as far as child rearing goes.  It's a slippery slope:  don't spank your kids, don't yell at your kids, don't speak sternly to your kids, don't say "no" to your kids...

http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702303519404579354801246309702[/quote]

Here's another way to frame it.  It is a criminal offense to hit another person (battery).  Should you be immune from prosecution because you are hitting a young person that you gave birth to (or adopted)?   It's asurd that I can hit my kid and no one will intervene, but if my neighbor does, she can (rightfully) go to jail.  When does my battery grace period end? When my kid is 18? If I "spank" my 19 year old, she can turn around and press charges. But if she's small, it's okay?

There are zero benefits to hitting children.  Everyone who I know that hits has serious problems with self-control, or is just a bad person. [/quote]

I feel the same way about parents who yell and curse at their kids or the parents who withhold affection as discipline.  Emotional and verbal abuse are just as damaging.  So how do you handle parents who do not hit, but call their kids every foul name in the book?  [/quote]

I don't know the answer...but just because there are multiple ways to damage your child doesn't mean we can stand by and let them all go on.  I agree that calling kids foul names is terrible and damaging.  But from a legal perspective, hitting another adult is illegal.  Calling another adult a foul name is not.  My point is that it is totally illogical that hitting a small child is somehow ok under the law, but hitting an adult is not ok. [/quote]

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