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Why should it be outlawed?  I guess I shouldn't be too surprised, but for an area that is supposed to be more worldly and sophisticated people here seem to think their way is the best and only way.  There are billions of people around the world that spank their kids.  How is your way better than another culture's way?  Because studies have shown xyz?  Those studies are skewed and don't apply to every culture.
 
I'm not saying that the case that OP saw is ok.  I'm saying there are different ways to parent, and spanking judiciously when it's called for doesn't mean the child will be scarred for life.

This is what happens when you don't firmly discipline kids. Read the link about Sweden.  This country is in danger of ending up like Sweden as far as child rearing goes.  It's a slippery slope:  don't spank your kids, don't yell at your kids, don't speak sternly to your kids, don't say "no" to your kids...

http://online.wsj.com/news/articles/SB10001424052702303519404579354801246309702[/quote]

Here's another way to frame it.  It is a criminal offense to hit another person (battery).  Should you be immune from prosecution because you are hitting a young person that you gave birth to (or adopted)?   It's asurd that I can hit my kid and no one will intervene, but if my neighbor does, she can (rightfully) go to jail.  When does my battery grace period end? When my kid is 18? If I "spank" my 19 year old, she can turn around and press charges. But if she's small, it's okay?

There are zero benefits to hitting children.  Everyone who I know that hits has serious problems with self-control, or is just a bad person. [/quote]

[b]I feel the same way about parents who yell and curse at their kids or the parents who withhold affection as discipline.  Emotional and verbal abuse are just as damaging.  So how do you handle parents who do not hit, but call their kids every foul name in the book?  [/quote][/b]

This is a GREAT point. Verbal/Emotional abuse is just as, if not more, damaging than physical abuse. I can think of a few examples of people who were verbally abused as children, that later faced many problems (risky sexual behavior, tolerance for sexual abuse, violence, drug use, depression, etc.).[/quote]

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